What is a Gentleman?

I was brought up hearing how much of a gentleman an English man can be. In my country I would hear that an English man would be the most gentlemen in the world.

Maybe it was my mistake not to understand exactly what the word means. I thought gentleman means to be polite, to have good manners, to be that sort of old fashion man, to treat a woman with respect and so on. But I came to realise that maybe it means to be gentle as a man that is not quite so masculine or perhaps to have some sort of a weak personality, gentle as not strong, something along that line.

What can I say? One way or the other it came to a great disappointment to me to find many people over here that actually are very rude. I have lost the counts of how many times a man didn’t hold a door to me actually they left it almost banging on my face and worst than that it happened to my mother too when she came to visit, she was shocked!!

In my country we have men that hardly can write their names or live in nice houses but still get up and offer their seats to a lady on the bus. If you are pregnant you are given the priority at any queues. If you have been pregnant you know that is not easy to be standing at one place for too long!!

Please someone does tell me what is going on? Where are the good old values and morals? Why people don’t behave or dress accordingly to the place or situation they find themselves?

May be it is me that was brought up with high expectations! I don’t know. But one thing is a fact all the men I have ever met in my past, family members, friends, colleagues from school, university and work all have been polite to me and I’ve always been treated with respect.

The father of my son who one day used to be married to me constantly shouts at me and call me things, walks away or hang the phone on me right in front of my son!! That is why among other things he became to be my ex. Whatever the differences are between us nothing justify a man mistreating a woman in my opinion.

These are a few examples of my own experience, I have unfortunately many more. I could keep on writing but I leave it to whoever wants to add!

Thanks